Suggestion 1: Write to them
Students love mail, even if they never write back. Most first-year students appreciate news from home and family, however mundane it may seem to you.
Suggestion 2: Ask questions
Ask them about their new college life, but do it more as a friend and less as a parent. Be interested, but not overbearing.
Suggestion 3: Expect change
Your son or daughter will change either drastically within the first months, slowly through the four-year span, or at a pace somewhere between the two.
Suggestion 4: Don't worry about mood swings
A lot of students freak out and call their parents when things get tough. Be patient, offer advice, and let your student vent. They don't hate things as much as it might seem.
Suggestion 5: Visit
Parental visits, especially when accompanied by shopping sprees and/or dining out, are another part of the first-year that new students reluctantly admit to liking but in most cases appreciate greatly.
Suggestion 6: Don't say...
"These are the best years of your life." It can be hard for students to see the good, except in retrospect. It sometimes takes a while to realize that this is normal, and that the movie perceptions of college life are not very accurate.
Suggestion 7: Trust them
Finding oneself is a difficult enough process without feeling that the people whose opinions your son or daughter respects most are second-guessing his or her own second-guessing.
We also provide information on parenting college students and managing situations relative to the college experience. We feel that partnering with parents ensures that students will have the support, encouragement, motivation and guidance they need to succeed at Concordia.